when i met my partner (we met on woo plus), i knew she liked fat guys. but she didn't have a clue about feedism.
as we were getting to know each other, it wasn't important, either. she could see i liked to eat! and gradually, over time, i introduced her to this site and others. she approached it with an open mind, and as she got familiar she was able to articulate what she liked, and what was a no-go for her.
i mention this because that is really the only time that my fetish(es) have come up - when i am with a partner that i want to get to know better, or i want to be more intimate with. with everyone else in the world that i happen to bump into, i don't want to know their fetishes, and i am sure they don't want to know mine. just like must of us don't talk about our interest in bdsm with casual acquaintances.
4 months